|My support system in action :D|
To some degree, dear reader, you probably already have a support system in place. Rare is the girl who has absolutely no friends. The key to creating a support system is making sure you have friends who are friends with each other, thus providing mutual support. Remember, these are the girls who are willing to protect you and help you no matter what, and for some events it remains a fact that you need more than one person to deal with it. When it comes to celebrating birthdays or chasing off unwelcome male attention, groups are always better. Satellite friends are also important (individuals who don’t belong to your core group), but having that central base is vital.
As you go about assessing your support system and how you will manage it, it’s also a prime time to remove the toxic friends from your life. And trust me, you probably have one or two. We all know these people, the unpleasant individuals who you can’t seem to get rid of even though they contribute nothing but misery and/or petty cruelty to your life. These people sow nothing but discord and trouble, and as such need to be evicted from your life pronto. This is also the time to get rid of one’s frenemies (which differ from toxic friends in that toxic friends still pretend they’re your friend, while frenemies are decidedly unpleasant and antagonistic, but you just can’t get rid of them), and if there are any girls hanging around you who are a less than respected companions, it’s probably better to send them on their way to find better suited friends of their own.
At long last, you’ve completed the four most crucial steps of becoming a lady. You’ve built a strong foundation of friends, advisors, and have gained insight into yourself. Now that you have the ‘skeleton’ of being a lady in place, it’s time to flesh it out with skills, manners, intelligence, and style. So stay tuned for ensuing articles on the many and varied ways that will help you become a lady.
Humbly yours, Victoria
P.S. If you have any specific questions about being a lady, feel free to email me at email@example.com, at which point I will answer your question and post both question and answer (your name will be omitted) to the blog as part of Definition of a Lady’s advice column.