1. A woman who is refined, polite, and well-spoken
2. A woman of high social and economic class
3. Any woman; female
That, my good readers, is the dictionary entry for what it means to be a lady. It seems almost banal, with such bare bones explanations. For our purposes, however, such a skeletal foundation is ideal, as it allows a woman to flesh out her own understanding of what it means to be a lady, and in this day and age that definition is very, very broad indeed. So, to help would-be ladies along, I and several friends have opted to create this blog, to provide advice, information, and tips on what it means to be a lady. And, while we’re at it, note the last definition of a lady: ‘any woman’. When it comes down to brass tacks, any woman can be a lady. It’s not a matter of money or breeding, but one of intellect and fortitude, as well as a willingness to improve upon one’s natural interests and inherent personality.
From the first, however, I feel it cannot be stressed enough is that each person must find their own definition of what it is to be a lady. There are many roads to the same destination, each with its own benefits and troubles. Generally, however, these roads have similar signage, which is why this blog can exist – whether haughty or humble, every lady must experience certain successes and disasters, and learn how to navigate similar potholes in their thoroughfare.
At the very start of this path, however, is a very simple crossroads with an equally simple signpost that reads as follows: Who are you? And like something from Alice in Wonderland, this sign has the potential to point in every which way if you are not sure of your answer. Now, to use myself as an example, I look at that sign and see ‘I am a would-be aristocrat’. I want the absolute top of the line in life, but I’m also delighted to go casual when the occasion calls. I am supremely confident in myself, and even when I’m not I pretend to be and pretending makes it so. I can be haughty and snobbish on occasion, but I am indelibly loyal to those who befriend and love me.
These are all just minor facets of a much larger picture, one that would require several encyclopedias to fully discuss, but it outlines some of the main points: I know who I am, I know what I want, I know my own worth, and I know who I care about. Understanding these things is the most important element of becoming a lady, the foundation upon which you can build the rest of your attitude and appearance. And make sure your foundation in strong, my apprentice ladies – if it isn’t, no amount of Home Ec skills, witty retorts, expensive clothes, or martial arts will make you the capable woman you long to be. That starts in the heart and in the head, and to act without them is to be only half there – a philosophical zombie, all flash and appearance with nothing going on inside.
I hope you enjoy this blog and visit us again soon. New articles – hopefully from an ever-growing bevy of writers – will be debuting in the near future.